The lid slide off the small cooler as Stephen hoisted it into the overhead compartment. He'd had to lower the locking handle to fit the cooler in, so a gentle bump was all it took for the lid to fall and bonk the gentleman in the aisle seat. Stephen apologized numerously and with genuine repentance, but the man was not placated. Later, as Stephen passed by on his way to the bathroom, the man elbowed him in the hip.
This is proof of a few things: one, that Stephen really loves me. Two, that I really, really love barbecue. We'd taken turns toting the cooler containing just under three pounds of pulled pork and six small, styrofoam tubs of sauce through the airport. He doesn't love barbecue the way I do; his mouth doesn't water when he thinks of tender shreds that mingle porky unctuousness with a perfume of smoke. Still, he took his turns carrying the cooler, even letting me slip the lid aside to catch a smoky whiff. Useful, that boy.
I realize I should go back a bit, begin at the beginning. Barbecue, a word so loaded with history and etymology, regionalism and secrecy, it both demands explanation and defies it. Lovers tend toward an intolerable snottiness when they explain it to the uninitiated, so I'll do my best to be brief. Barbecue, as a verb, means to cook a piece of meat oh so very slowly over an indirect fire, to braise it in smoke, until incomparable tenderness is achieved. Questions of seasonings, dry rubs and sauces, have evaded more serious barbecue scholars than myself, so I'll stick to technique. Hamburgers, hot dogs, steaks, portobello mushrooms, chicken in sticky sauce, any of that cooked on a grate over coals was grilled, not barbecued.
Barbecue, as a noun, can refer to any cut of any animal cooked in such a way, but typically the word is shorthand for something specific, depending on where you're from. In Texas it means brisket; it's ribs in Kansas City. Where I have family in North-western Kentucky, they tend toward mutton. I'm from Nashville, and in Tennessee, the Carolinas, and Alabama, if you say barbecue with no modifiers, you probably mean smoked, shredded pork shoulder. We eat those other things too, I've seen everything from whole pigs to elk legs thrown in a smoker, but the barbecue closest to our hearts is pulled pork.